Dating in Spain

So far in Barcelona I have seen many girls who would by modern day standard be considered attractive. These girls rang in all different sizes and shapes, hair colors and styles. However, one thing that I’ve noticed is that, like everyone that has ever walked the earth, they seek attention and want people to notice them. All people really want in life, I feel, is to be noticed and shown that others take interest in them and their every day well being. Everyone is insecure about themselves, and everyone wants others to like them and because of this we try our hardest to conform to general stereotypes that are considered "acceptable" and do our best to appeal to as many people as we can. The more attention we get and the more we are in fact accepted as a person in society the better we feel about ourselves. But what is the best way to get the gratification we want you might ask? What is the best and most fulfilling thing we can do that will not only show us that we are liked but that we are "acceptable" in society? Well to most people the answer to that would be Hooking Up.

Making out, Hooking up, Getting with, Mackin, Kissing... whatever you call it, it’s all the same. Getting recognition from the opposite sex, or whatever sex you’re interested in, is by far the most proffered way of getting the needed attention that everyone craves. There are few things in life that are more rewarding or desired than having the opportunity to become more intimate with a person that you are truly attracted to. However, at times it can be hard to really find someone that we connect with on a personal, physical and sexual level. Therefore, we settle. We settle for the attribute that is by far the easiest to spot out; the one that requires the least amount of time to determine compatibility... physical attraction.

Knowing whether you are physically attracted to someone is almost instantaneous. All that is required is about 1 or 2 seconds of them within your sight and you know. Why is it you might ask that we settle for this one trait when there are literally endless amounts of attributes that might cause two people to connect? Well I don’t pretend to be some sort of expert but if I were to guess this would be it. I think often times we don’t need a real connection with other people to satisfy our desire to be noticed. Sometimes a simple hook up or make out session is enough to do the trick and give people a little more fuel to hold out until the next time they get lucky. Often times these makeout session take place in a bar or club while the two individuals are inebriated to the point where they will neither remember each other names nor anything about the conversation they had prior to making out… if there ever was any conversation at all.

For me personally I find it extremely difficult to connect with anyone when the music is blasting and you can’t move because there are hundreds of drunken kids dancing all around you. Don’t get me wrong, I fucking love going to the clubs here, raging, fist pumpin with the best of them and generally doing everything else that a good little frat boy would love appeals to me like non other. And once a connection has been made with someone, a makeout session on the dance floor while grinding to a bone shatteringly loud base can be a shit ton of fun. All I am saying is that there is a time for random hookups and likewise a time for real, genuine connection; a fact which I feel many of my peers fail to realize and the latter of which is often times overlook.
In the end, whether you enjoy random makeout sessions with numerous amounts of people which you care very little about or proffer to actually generate a real conversation with someone you might actually connect with is up to you. For me personally however, I feel the latter is far more appealing. Random hookups can be fun, but if the only thing you have in common is a physical attraction to one another, I find myself at times asking “what’s the point?” Sometimes a smaller bar or club with a sitting area where you can actually get to know someone is far more appealing, some might say that’s gay but I say go fuck ya-self. Anyways it was just on my mind so take what you will and hopefully everyone will find what they’re looking for in the crazily insane scene which we know as the Barcelona night life.

Until next time, in the words of Vinny the fist pumping master “it’s like the music is hitting us, and we’re fighting back”